Have you heard about the Law of Attraction?
It became a hit with that godawful book The Secret … I revere books … they are my magic world … and The Secret was the first book I ever wanted to burn.
It’s not that she doesn’t have some ideas … it’s the fact that she pretty much needed lots and lots of other voices to affirm her voice [there are LOTS of quotes from other people] … and after a while it all starts to repeat itself.
So … if you really really want something all you have to do is think about it and the Law of Attraction kicks in … it’ll come find you.
Hmmmmmmmmm.
In my Life Dreaming workbook [you can download it free at the front page] I talk about Imagination and Intuition.
I firmly believe in the power of a Clear Wishing … being very very clear about what’s important to you and what you want to create in your life.
You don’t wish for a House … you spend time clarifying what kind of home … rural or city … rooms … materials … land etc. You use your imagination to see yourself in the Home … relaxing … being with friends and family. You write it down … you refine it. You have fun seeing yourself in that future … whatever the wish.
And that’s where some people stop.
A dear friend told me a story about a relative who read The Secret and other stuff on the Law of Attraction … she spends her time imagining the future and pretty much stays at home … that’s it.
Now folks … if you’ve read The Secret and the Law of Attraction … stayed home imagining … and it all came to your door … then fair fecking luck to you [and don't get me started on Your so Lucky!].
If I could just sit at home and wish Life Dreaming into existence without any of the effort that Marc and I are putting in … yeh baby … sign me up.
Most of us have to GOYA to make our wishes come true.
GOYA?
Yeh … get off your arse.
Sitting at home wishing … watching shit on tv … eating crap … and wondering why things aren’t changing … ummmm … duh.
Clear Wishing is only one part of the whole Life Dreaming process that we’ll be launching in Feb 2011 with the LD Expedition online workshops … there’s all the fun of planning … gaining support and resources … dealing with fears … drawing on your amazing strengths … and taking all the steps to make it real.
Linking your words to actions is the key.
When the Clear Wishings are big [me moving to Bali from Ireland late next year] then there are a pile of actions to put in place … so far no one has come to my door and offered to do it all for me.
Being clear about why it’s important in my life to move to Bali really helps me focus … researching it helps … telling family and friends helps … asking for support helps … developing an action plan helps … imagining myself in Bali with Coco dog helps … writing about my fears helps … and these are all actions [and more] that I’m putting in place to make my Wishing come true.
Even when the Wishing is small [restart my Wii exercise programme by buying aa batteries for the wii thingy] there are still actions to be taken.
So … in the words of the great Elvis … a little less conversation a little more action!
Watch the dancing …. it’s a hoot!
MARC SAYS…
We weren’t a particularly religious household, but I’m sure it was a family saying around my home when I was growing up that “God helps those who help themselves”. That was taken to apply to everything from studying hard to not returning an empty water bottle to the fridge and turning off lights and fans when you left a room. [ Liz - I remember Dad walking behind us when we left a room saying 'is anyone in that room ... do the lights turn themselves off?' I still hear that voice when I leave a light on!]
It was a running joke at the time, but it’s one of those life lessons that serves you well forever.
We also drew the good queue number when it came to parents, and were blessed with support and encouragement in everything we did. The proviso, of course, was that we’d have to put in the work for it. No silver spoons in our house.
[Liz again - one of Dad's sayings has always stuck in my head. He used to say that he didn't care what we did ... if we wanted to dig holes for a living that would be fine ... as long as we dug the best holes that we could.]
But there’s another lesson I’ve learnt as an adult… which of course applied to my childhood as well, perhaps just less consciously.
Yes, you need to visualize… and you need to GOYA. When they say “opportunity knocks”, they don’t mean “at your front door, while you’re in your jammies doing nothing”. They mean while you’re out there, doing things that will help you achieve your dreams.
But, in my experience, opportunity doesn’t always look like you expect it to. It can be serendipitous, surprising, perhaps even course-altering. It can be mischievous… perhaps showing up in disguise or requiring that you leap a small hurdle (or two, or three) before it reveals itself.
I had my tarot cards read once and was told “while you look for this thing you won’t find it, but when you give up trying, it will find you”. I crossed her palm with silver and thought nothing more of it, but sure enough, it’s a lesson that’s repeated itself for me over and over again.
I love all the things that Liz has written above. True words all. But I wanted to add this little bit to the bottom, a little like the 5pt type you find on the packaging of medicine and sharp objects (“Do not operate these scissors if you are under 5 years old, drunk or psychotic”).
Wish and dream. Visualise and plan. GOYA. But don’t let it blinker you. Stay open to the world and all the mad serendipity it contains. Treat it all (and yourself) with kindness and joy. Because as long as you’re out there working towards your dreams, you might not need to find everything you need, it might find you.
That’ll be one piece of silver please.
=) best wishes
Marc
p.s from Liz – and as usual Marc puts the icing on the cake. I sooo agree with him … serendipity and synchronicity are 2 of my favourite words. That’s the paradox of Life Dreaming … we give you lots of fab tools … and … we ask you to stay open to all the mad, crazy & delicious opportunities that tip toe & dance into your life. Keep your Opportunity Radar open at all times.
Life Dreaming Activity
In what areas of your life do you need a little less conversation and a little more action.
Mine is exercise … that’s why I bought the aa batteries for the wii today … and start the exercise programme again tomorrow.
My dad also kept at us always about turning off lights. And . . . serendipity and synchronicity are two of my favorite words. I like “GOYA” – will keep that in mind always.
This post brings to mind a poem or phrase that I heard long ago that goes something like this:
“If wishes were fishes . . . ” (I tried to find the version I had heard but there seem to be many versions?).
You had me off googling Lindy.
Now I’m being a nerd girl – the first quote was ‘if wishes were horses then beggars would ride’ . And Wikipedia has some fun as usual http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If_wishes_were_horses,_beggars_would_ride
And in tomorrows post I’ve explored a bit more on the whole synchronicity/opportunity riff that Marc started.
And I’ve been GOYAing all week … time for LOLLing.
GOYA – I love it!
and you know that I love synchronicity and serendipity………
I know you love S & S … and you’re also very very good at GOYA.
My kind of people!!!