LDM #3 – The Space between 2 Trapezes
The Space between 2 Trapezes – From the old to the new.
image from a 19 century poster
Our dream/goal will always involve change … and change is not just about leaving the bad and the boring behind.
In order to move [literally/figuratively/psychologically] to the dream we have to say goodbye to things we love … to people … ideas … beliefs about ourselves … feeling safe … places we love.
We need to create space to say goodbye and the time to mourn the good stuff we are leaving … as well as dump outdated beliefs about ourselves.
I’ve moved a hell of a lot in my life … at first is was because dad kept getting promoted … and then at 15 it was to go away to senior high school … and then university … and then first boyfriend … and then new jobs … and then from OZ to Ireland … and then. I’ve had heaps of experience of change … new places … new people.
I’ve also had heaps of other life changes … some I chose and others came out of the blue.
There are payoffs and pain in staying … and payoffs and pain in changing. It helps to acknowledge them.
When change happens … whether it was our choice or not … it can take time for our ‘insides’ to catch up with our ‘outsides’.
Our ‘outsides’ are what are called situational changes … the things we can see … new home … new career … new baby … new dance move … new course … new band … new act … new training … new friends … new hobby … new money … new partner … new business … new country … new holiday … new dream …
Our ‘insides’ are the psychological transformations that take place when we are involved in change … and they can take longer to happen than the outside change. We can feel confused and lost and excited and out of our depth … all normal … and we need to recognise that transition time is needed.
Feeling confused and lonely and scared and excited … that space between 2 trapezes … needs to be acknowledged … because if we don’t … we may think our decision/dream was a bad one and not give it a chance.
This is the quote I read many decades ago that inspired this LD Morsel
It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear . . . . It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.
~Marilyn Ferguson
This space between 2 trapezes can be an amazing opportunity for personal transformation as you let go of old habits [and/or people and places] and decide what you want to take with you … literally and figuratively.
It’s about shedding old ideas … old ways … even old dreams. Saying goodbye is important as it acknowledges the pleasure [and pain] of the past … and moving towards your new dreams is all about new hellos … new pleasure and new pain.
And I always live in hope that someone [me] remembered to hook up the safety net … or a miracle happens and I start flying.
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